Lately, I’ve been feeling so down because I see so many successful people who are so talented and seem to have it all while I am a senior university student not knowing where to go after graduation.
Insecurities are killing me. I partly blame all these social media or social networking sites because it is a space where everyone shares their important life updates. I think not everyone is aware that our social media profile is not the “real” us, all because of the reason that we filter everything we post. If it’s the real us, we would post the good and the bad. Why would we post the bad? Forget that. (Exactly!) ‘kay, talking to myself again.
With that said, all the positive things a.k.a. the things we are proud of, the things we’d like to boast to our friends (yes, I said it), the things we are confident to share to people in order to show that we have a good life are the posts that pass the default “What’s on your mind?” question.
Here’s a question: Are you secretly thinking that posting a picture of yourself in a fancy restaurant, hotel or tourist spot or a momentous life update would automatically make people assume that you are living a better life? We’ve all done it. I, for one, am guilty of it.
Reversing the role of being the creator of the post to the reader of the post, I feel insecure about what I see because of the reason that I do assume that that person is living a way better life than my ordinary life.
There is an advice I read, ironically, on Facebook. It said that if you are better than yourself from yesterday, that is enough. I also heard from an audiobook I listened to last month, I think the title was Maximizing Your Potential, telling me that there is no point to compare yourself to others. The only person you have to compare yourself to is yourself.
Those words struck me because I have always been the type of person who compares myself to others (and not just random people, people who I see are way better than me in terms of physical appearance, skill set and even the friends they hang out with) It’s petty, I know but I couldn’t help it. Am I the only one who does this? Is this normal?
I’ve tried different ways to counter my insecurities. One was the harsh and straightforward reality I keep telling to myself: There are always people who are better than you. Another was to work hard and stay humble which leads me to another reminder to work hard in silence and let success be the noise, assuming you’re not the one who started the noise, if that makes sense.
I tell myself that I am the one on the losing side if I let my insecurities get the better of me but sometimes you just can’t avoid it.
How ‘bout you? How do you deal with insecurities?